Episode 12: "You are all sorts of things you don’t even know yet..."

If you watched the show or read the book, Daisy Jones and the Six, you may remember this line said by Camila to Daisy in a scene where Daisy is going through a tough time and questioning her talent and her purpose in life…

“Don’t count yourself out this early, Daisy. You’re all sorts of things you don’t even know yet.”

That statement made in that moment resonated with me so much because there are so many ways to absorb it. I try and think of that last line often both for myself and for others in my life when we need it. Here’s what it tells me…

Self-doubt is normal, but it also sucks.
I feel like I could write a book about self-doubt. We do this to ourselves all the time. Even the most confident person has self-doubt from time-to-time which reminds me that it’s normal, and it’s okay. But it also reminds me that our brains are jerks. And our brains sometimes tell us things that we think are real and true.

“You’re not that great at what you’re doing.”
“Your best friend probably hates you after you said that.”
“You don’t have enough experience for that job.”

It’s not until we stand up to our (sometimes) jerky brains and tell it to back the F off that we can push past the self-doubt and move onto our more confident states and selves.

Growth is continual.
We can be on top of the world for one phase of life and then feel like we’re starting over in another phase of life. We are constantly changing not only as humans but also ever-evolving what we want in our lives and what makes sense for us right now. You are not the same person you were 5 or 10 years ago. And, you shouldn’t be.

The future is exciting.
Think about yourself today—what you’re doing, who you surround yourself with, your accomplishments, your family. Did you think that “today” would be full of those things a decade ago? Two decades ago? The future holds so much that we don’t even know about yet because we’re slowly making the journey every single day. And, to not always know what’s next is kind of exciting.

What we see in ourselves is very different than what others see in us.
These two views are often vastly different and could vary based on how we’re feeling about ourselves in a given moment of time. If we’re feeling extra confident, then we know we can do great things that others don’t know is possible in us. But often, it works in the opposite way. We are so often in our own way—due to self-doubt, frustration, or stress—that we don’t see what’s possible for ourselves. When your child is afraid of performing on stage, you know they have the talent to be the star of the show. Your best friend isn’t sure she can ask for a raise while you know she’s well worth double her salary. Remember to see yourselves in others’ reflections of you, too. They can often shine a light that we sometimes miss.

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