Episode 3: How to Find a Therapist That Won't Make You Hold Rocks

Unless you like that sort of thing...

After leaving Philly, we lived in San Diego for a year and then landed in Los Angeles (where we have been since) in 2010. We were finally ready to stay put, start a family, and had our first baby in the fall of 2011.

Everything I knew about accomplishing goals and being a Type-A go-getter fell to the wayside once I had a baby. She changed everything, and I had no idea what I was doing. My business was now 6 years old and growing. I was getting busier, making more money, establishing my brand, and feeling my career was finally going in the direction that I wanted.

Yet, this baby had her own goals. She needed to eat a lot, sleep a lot, cry a lot, and she couldn’t tell me what she wanted! How could I get my work done and take care of this baby all at the same time? I found myself loving this baby so much, yet also feeling helpless in figuring out how to…

…be a hustler in my career (cause people will forget about you if you don’t)
…be a good mom to this baby (for obvious reasons)
…feed her through my boob (cause that’s what everyone says you should do)
…get her to sleep through the night (so we could sleep through the night)
…be a good wife (and somehow feel attractive to my husband)
…see my friends who didn’t have kids (cause they clearly would drop me as a friend if I started to flake on social plans)

I found myself getting angsty, anxious, and angry. And I started taking it out on my husband. We tend to show the worst parts of ourselves to those we love the most because we trust them the most. Sound familiar?!

So I felt like it was time to search for a therapist in Los Angeles—the land of therapy.